A. Wow — a
newly single mom pushing 37, with three active
young kids, leaving a seemingly abusive marriage,
feeling unemployable after years out of the
work force, and you’re worried about
having great sex and getting back rubs? The
important issue here is not about finding “Mr.
Right,” but about making your life
right for you and your family.
Please excuse my bluntness, but your rather
consuming focus on romance (angular t-square
with Neptune at the Midheaven opposite 4th-house
Venus, both square 7th-house Jupiter)1 serves
neither you nor your children.
These powerful hopes and longings (natal
Neptune opposite Venus) along with unrealistic
projections on one’s partner (each square 7th-house
Jupiter and a predominantly western-oriented chart)
can (and has) led to disappointment in love and the
belief that everything in your life would fall into
place if only you could find the right man. These
unproductive and ultimately inappropriate longings
can and must be overcome.
Recent planetary activity reflects the
sweeping life changes you describe: transiting
Neptune conjunct Ascendant (dissolving your
self-image as well as relationship loss),
transiting Uranus square 4th-house Venus
(loss of love and home and shift of values),
progressed Moon conjunct Midheaven (change
of status or occupation and shifts within
the home — opposition IC), and transiting
Saturn conjunct Moon (facing up to responsibility,
leaving the past behind, especially bad habits).2 Remove those Neptunian rose-colored glasses
and get real.
Ask yourself, “What’s truly important here
and now?” as you harness the potency of your
t-square to concentrate on your kids and career. If
you land the “right job” without returning
to school, so much the better; graduate school only
makes sense if it’s for a specific, well-defined,
and well-rewarded purpose. The beauty industry is a
good sector for you — positively engaging your
t-square as well as your caring, outgoing nature
(natal Cancer Moon trine Neptune near the Midheaven,
7th-house Jupiter in Leo) and requiring only limited
Your best bet is to continue to care for
your children and yourself, developing self-respect
and genuine self-love in the process (which is,
by the way, not the same as self-absorption).
By claiming your place in the world in a
mature and responsible way, you may eventually
find your Prince Charming and prove your
mother wrong. In any case, your rich, full,
and meaningful life will be its own reward.