Q. I have
reached a point in my life where I feel I need
to make a major change or forever accept being
alone without any friends or lovers. I am 48
years old, and I have been single for almost
20 years with no real "boyfriends" or sex partners.
I live with my sweet pets, along with my youngest
son who is just turning 18 and is very independent.
I feel so lost right now.
I sense the state
I live in is not going to grant me much more
than I have now, and I think about moving to
another state where the energy would possibly
bring love and a feeling of importance in my
life. I feel numb and without much joy other
than my pets and my children. I have been thinking
about Oklahoma or Texas, but I don't want to
make a wrong move and become more isolated.
Please help! I feel like an island in my own
birthplace.
—Longing For Connection
A. It's
no wonder you have a yearning to recreate
your life in just the right location. You
have recently been "reborn" into
a brand new 30-year progressed lunation
cycle (November 12, 2003). And the degree
of your progressed New Moon (21°Libra40')
is conjunct the beneficent fixed stars
Spica and Arcturus, indicating that good
things are part of the package.1
Relentlessly release the past, to truly
complete the previous cycle and to seed
this new cycle with the potential for the
deep connections that you long for. A powerful
series of Uranus oppositions helps to free
you from outmoded inner states and outer relationships.
Transiting Pluto approaching your IC (home and inner
security) supports an inner realignment along with
a major move, so naturally you're ready to jump ship!2
Your
current location (near your birthplace) is
extremely close to your Mercury-Ascendant
line, reflecting Mercury's placement in your
natal chart.3 Mercury
lines are particularly good for developing
your mind as well as a career. Your ideas
may set you apart from others, and this may
be partly responsible for your feelings of
isolation.
You might have better luck feeling connected
at your Moon-IC line, which runs north/south
at 93° west. This line falls very
close to Oklahoma City and within range of
Fort Worth/Dallas and Houston, thus supporting
your relocation choices. This line also lies
near New Orleans, Memphis, Kansas City, Indianapolis,
and Minneapolis, so consider those places too.
As with any important situation, astrology
is just one factor to consider. I encourage
you to research any cities you're serious
about, investigate the housing and job markets,
the climate, and the likelihood of finding
people who share your perspective on life.
Your 12th-house Virgo planets (Sun, Venus,
and Mercury) trine your 4th-house Capricorn
Moon show your tendency to be somewhat withdrawn
— until now. Due to the existing celestial
environment and your upcoming move, you have
an extraordinary opportunity to reinvent
yourself. Ask yourself: "Who do I want
to become now?" And hold that vision,
as you leave your cocoon behind and fly free!