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1. The term “horizon” refers
to the Ascendant–Descendant axis in a chart
and marks the meeting of sky and earth. The term “nodal
axis” refers to the North and South Nodes of
the Moon, which are always exactly opposite each
other in the zodiac; the nodes mark the place where
the Moon’s orbit crosses the plane of the ecliptic.
For further information, see Jeff Mayo, The Astrologer’s
Astronomical Handbook, L. N. Fowler & Co. Ltd.,
1972, pp. 81–85. For more about interpretation,
refer to Dane Rudhyar, Person
Centered Astrology,
Aurora Press, 1980, pp. 266–281.
2. The Moon’s
Nodes are slightly more than 1° from the cusp
of the Ascendant and Descendant, close enough to
be interpreted as though they were actually in the
angular houses. Because of Uranus's proximity
to the South Node, it also impacts the 7th house.
3. Transiting
Uranus conjoins natal Mercury from March 15, 2003
to January 9, 2005, and transiting Pluto squares
the natal Sun from December 31, 2002 to October 12,
2005. The progressed New Moon is on August 30, 2006.
Learn more about the Progressed Lunation Cycle from The
Lunation Cycle: A
Key to Understanding of Personality by
Dane Rudhyar, Aurora Press, 1967 and in the article, An
Overview of Dane Rudhyar’s Approach to Cycles (TMA,
2/98), by Nicki Michaels.
4. Transiting
Saturn conjoined natal Uranus from September 16,
1974 to July 4, 1975 and from July 10, 2004 to April
19, 2005; conjoined the natal South Node from June
18, 1975 to July 19, 1975 and again from July 25,
2004 to May 16, 2005; conjoined the Descendant from
June 30, 1975 to July 31,1975 and again from August
6, 2004 to May 31, 2005; and remains in the 7th house
until August 11, 2008.
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AskAstroCoach.com » » Longing
For Love
Longing
For Love
From The
Mountain Astrologer, April-may 2004
(3)
Q. I
am 49 years old. I was married for 14 years,
from 1975 to 1990, then divorced. Since then,
I have yet to find a satisfying, lasting relationship.
I was engaged once, but it ended horribly.
My partner was bipolar. He was everything I
ever wanted, but I could not tolerate his sudden
blowups and meanness. The relationships since
seem like I'm revisiting with partners from
previous lifetimes. It feels as if we have
done this before. They last from 6 months to
(the most recent ) lasting 2 years and dying.
Was my marriage the only lasting relationship
I'll ever have? Is there something I should
know?
— Longing For
Love
A. Yes,
there is something you should know: It is
indeed significant that your experience of
recent relationships is like “revisiting
with partners from previous lifetimes,” as
if “we have done this before.” Although
I don’t pretend to be an expert on
reincarnation, I do know that your natal
nodal axis conjunct the horizon1 is where
both your relationship dilemma and its ultimate
solution lie.2
The South Node (both by sign and by house)
represents the past. Be it past lives, genetic
inheritance, or family emotional patterning,
this is what feels familiar to you and is,
therefore, the path of least resistance.
It also acts as a release point for the Moon’s
function.
Your 5th-house Moon–Jupiter conjunction
forms a challenging t-square with Mars and your (wide)
2nd-house Sun–Venus conjunction. This conjunction
would otherwise operate as an anchor for your own
values (Venus) and goals (Sun) through enlivened
creative activity (Moon–Jupiter in the 5th)
and energetic, integrated participation in the world
(11th-house Mars) instead catapults you into passionately
intense relationships with unsuitable partners.
Natal Chart - Longing For Love
Source: Birth Certificate
With your 7th-house Cancer South Node conjunct
Uranus, you are the quintessential fool for
love. Impetuous feelings overcome your good
judgment, attracting men of unactualized
potential, with whom there’s a powerful
magnetism (Pluto in the 7th) and yet whom
you must ultimately rescue. This somewhat
unintegrated approach to relationships, however,
can backfire in dramatic ways, as it did
with your bipolar partner.
I don’t mean
to imply that you consciously make unsuitable
relationship choices. The South Node represents
unconscious patterns that, like the Energizer bunny,
just keep on going — until you change them.
Accentuated by retrograde Saturn (ruler of both your
Ascendant and the North Node), this translates into
a search for identity through relationship, rather
than through internal, integral wholeness.
In a nutshell,
the less you focus on your longing for one true
love (South Node–Descendant) and the
more you set your sights on developing selfhood
(North Node–Ascendant), the more likely
you are to outgrow this repetitive scenario.
More simply put, change the tune to change
the dance!
And, as fate would have it, the
timing is divine, with a new tune set to
start in the summer of 2006, as you begin
another 30-year cycle of development at
the time of your progressed New Moon. Between
now and then, harness the energy of transiting
Pluto’s square
to your Sun and transiting Uranus’s conjunction
to your Mercury, to free yourself from your past.
Take this precious opportunity to reorient both
your outlook and your goals.3
This summer, transiting
Saturn conjoins natal Uranus–Descendant
and enters the 7th house, as it did in 1975,
the year of your marriage, offering you once
again the potential for a committed relationship.4 Have faith in the fulfillment of that promise,
shifting your focus from the South to the North
Node, by asking yourself each day: What does
it mean to live an integrated, whole, and enlivened
life?
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