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1. A stellium is a cluster of three or more planets closely related by sign or house. Astrologers differ in their use of this term; some consider a stellium to be five or more planets (Nicholas deVore, Encyclopedia of Astrology, Littlefield, Adams & Co., 1976), although others define it more loosely, as I do (Fred Gettings, The Arkana Dictionary of Astrology, Arkana, 1990). Read more about the differences between waxing and waning aspects in Dane Rudhyarfs The Lunation Cycle published by Aurora Press.

2. The personal planets are the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, and Mars. Their faster motion helps to differentiate personality traits of people born within hours (in the case of the Moon), days, weeks, or months of each other.

3. Learn more about the Progressed Lunation Cycle from The Lunation Cycle: A Key to Understanding of Personality by Dane Rudhyar, Aurora Press, 1967 and in the article, An Overview of Dane Rudhyar's Approach to Cycles (TMA, 2/98), by Nicki Michaels.

4. Progressed Venus conjoined natal Jupiter from March 14, 2001 to August 6, 2004; the progressed Sun sextiled the IC from January 12, 2002 to January 1, 2006 and the Moon from February 24, 2002 to February 14, 2006; transiting Pluto sextiles natal Venus from January 12, 2005 to November 2, 2007; transiting Uranus opposes natal Uranus from March 13, 2005 to January 5, 2007; transiting Neptune conjoins Saturn from May 1, 2006 to November 10, 2009 and Venus from March 20, 2008 to August 15, 2009. The Full phase of the progressed lunation cycle is from May 31, 2009 to March 14, 2013.

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Wannabe Bride
From The Mountain Astrologer, June-July 2006 (2)

Q.  I'm 41 and have never been married— and I want to be! I know some people would think I'm crazy, but I think we should all do it at least once. I have Jupiter in the 7th house, which typically bodes well for a marriage—but I can't get through my Venus-Saturn in the 5th to get to the 7th. Or how about the ruler of the 5th conjunct Pluto in the 12th? I'm trying to play the cards that were given to me in the romance department, but to no avail. With Libra rising, you know this is very important to me. Even when progressed Venus hit natal Jupiter in the 7th and transiting Uranus conjoined natal Venus in the 5th—nothing happened. I'm a tough case. Any thoughts as to the timing? I need a professional!
— Wannabe Bride

A.  What's crazy about wanting to hook up with the right life partner? Natal 7th-house Jupiter is, indeed, an indicator of marriage, but in your case Jupiter is in a Last Quarter square to several Capricorn planets in your 4th-house stellium.1 This grouping of four personal planets plus the South Node reveals intimacy issues: You protect yourself when you're feeling vulnerable. With all of your personal planets2 beneath the horizon, you tend to hide your true nature. This is amplified by the Balsamic lunation cycle birth phase — denoting one who marches to the beat of a different drum.3

A Capricorn Moon individual, although extremely sensitive, is often not perceived as emotionally warm and available; a retrograde Capricorn Mercury may be reticent to communicate on an intimate level; and a Sun-Mars conjunction in Capricorn may at times come across as a feisty, no-nonsense person. These 4th-house placements, combined with the challenging square to 7th-house Jupiter, demand that you reveal your vulnerability.

Birth Chart:  Everyone's Best Friend
Natal Chart - Wannabe Bride
Source: Birth Certificate

Your 5th-house conjunction of Venus (relationship conjunction) and Saturn (structure) can also be self-protective; with Venus-Saturn in a First Quarter square to 2nd-house Neptune (self-doubt and delusion), you may have unrealistic expectations of potential partners and project your insecurities onto relationships.

Progressed aspects reveal the inner climate and particular themes that hold potential for development during the period they activate and beyond. Nothing may have manifest when your progressed Venus (love) actually conjoined natal Jupiter (opportunity) and when your progressed Sun (self) sextiled the IC (home, family) and the Moon (emotional connection), but you are now imbued with that energy — the potential is still within you to manifest a relationship. To do so, you must truly open yourself to love.

In the midst of the classic midlife transition, as transiting Uranus opposes its natal placement, this is the perfect time to take stock and ask, "How do I want my life to be different, and what am I willing to do to make it happen?" Take advantage of transiting Neptune conjoining your Venus-Saturn to dissolve barriers to intimacy. Supported by transiting Pluto's sextile to natal Venus, come out of your shell. Invite someone in — learn to trust. All of this culminates at your progressed Full Moon (May 31, 2009), beginning a period of potential fulfillment.4 These are not easy changes for you. Try a relationship coach or a therapist to help you dissolve your fear of rejection. Ask yourself, "What is it to invite love in?" With your powerful Capricorn resolve, you can accomplish anything when you harness your energies positively.


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